so it’s week 4 of this endeavour my wife and I are going thru. For any that haven’t read my earlier post…. my wife and I had a Domestic fallout. it’s unfortunate that she called the police. I guess she didn’t know what would happen.
first of all, I never touched my wife in a way that would be seen as Abusive, I assume the police put those charges because in Ontario by law they have no choice but to pursue charges.
Yes it hurt! my life has been completely changed these last few weeks and the hurt during the time being in jail or the time afterwards when I was told by a Justice of the Peace that I was not to speak to my wife directly or indirectly. Or be within 50 meters of her.
in this time I have cried and have been forced to deal with the courts. Something that up to this point in time in my life had never been something I had to deal with.
I look forward for the moment I get to speak to my wife and begin the reconciliation with her. During this time I have been forced to live love the way that God intended.
This means that I have to show love and move to forgive her. and to fix this relationship. one thing that I have never considered is Divorce. this is out of love for her… and for my obedience to God.
I can’t tell you how scary it is though not to know what her thoughts are, I just pray that she will hang on to the lord as I am every day until we are able to speak to each other.
I love you and will not and have not given up on our marriage. What the Lord has unified may man not divide.
so it’s been a while since I posted on here on behalf of myself or my wife. I have to say that being married is a full time career. But one that I stand by and will honor until my dying breath.
Recently my wife and I had quite the fall out, in which it ended up that we were forcefully separated by police.
I have to say it has been one of the hardest things in my life. being away from my wife. no matter what happened. but it has gotten me to think. how many of us that are married stop to think what did I say on that fateful day I said I do.
Now let me take it one step further how many of us think about those vows when we are fighting without spouse… or when as in my case legally required to abstain from speaking to them.
well here is what comes to my mind. on that fateful day I said that I would love and care for her in SICKNESS and in Health…. for BETTER or for WORSE. I essentially promised (Vowed) that for the rest of my life… she would be the only one that would lighten up my sky… she would be the one I would forgive and the one that I would love and cherish until my dying breath. So next time that you come across a feeling of…. maybe it’s just easier to move on. Remember…. those words you said.
and that word wasn’t just to that person but it was in front of God. I’m positive my wife and I make it thru this, and we will be stronger than ever.
I will be posting more as this develops to encourage others out there that there is always home when God is the centre of your marriage. Even in the throws of darkness you can come out on top. to my lovely Wife… Hang in there we will make it thru this.
So this is supposed to be my wife’s project…. writing about marriage and stuff of the sorts. Seeing as how she hasn’t written on it as of yet. I thought I’d hijack it and be the first one to write on this blog.
So here it Goes!
we were married 08.15.15 and from the get go it wasn’t your typical wedding. for starters we didn’t wait over a year for the wedding date… it was almost 2 months to the date of the engagement. 2nd of all I didn’t buy an engagement ring. for any girls out there reading this close your mouths it shouldn’t be shocking :).
the reason I chose not to go that route is because a ring really wasn’t something that to me meant special. unless any of you didn’t know diamonds aren’t rare… and because my wife (at the time girlfriend/fiance) was the most important and special person to me how could I do what everyone else does.
so going forward… I’m looking to writing a little bit about my marriage adventure and what brought me here.